So every now and then, I read a book that I become obsessed with and want to tell every person I know about it.
These books actually tend to be recommended to me, so if you've read any books that have changed your life and/or business, share share!
Today, I'd like to share with you a couple big points I learned in the book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck" by Mark Manson. Read on with an open mind and no judgements, think about the concepts, and then if you'd like, comment your thoughts.
CONCEPT 1: How to not give a f*ck without being a psychopath.
Being indifferent is just being afraid of what happens when you care, or you're a psychopath. Therefore, the answer is not to be indifferent, but to love and accept your own unique weirdness. Be fearless! in your writing, your style, your risks and failures. Even if some people judge, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming lol I mean, no matter how hard you try to not be judged or how hard you try to be perfect, at the end of the day, you're in a world that judges and throws obstacles your way. You're just going to wear yourself down trying so hard, when you could be using that energy to give a f*ck about actual important things in life. Which brings us to
CONCEPT 2: How to choose what to suffer for.
I know, it sounds emo, but bare with me. The point here is as stated above, you can't avoid judgements and struggles, which means you shouldn't avoid suffering. I actually used to totally avoid problems at all costs! Now I know, even what makes me happy will in some form or another bring stress. Like how I love entrepreneurship. It's super stressful sometimes! But I wouldn't trade it for anything. Whereas roommate drama-pass; someone in the street is giving me the stink eye-so; my cat peed on my dress-I can get another (another dress, not cat! lol). The fact that I know what I'm choosing as problems to suffer for is incredibly empowering.
CONCEPT 3: Greatness does not equal happiness.
Mark mentions that none of us are special, and we should not be afraid of mediocrity. What matters in life is not to be great, but to be happy. Some people do achieve greatness after years of self-improvement in their craft, but their ultimate happiness is based on how they view their process and achievements. For example, if you're just looking for more success even after you reach success, you'll never be happy. Or if you're constantly comparing your material things and status to others, you'll also never be happy. Happiness even in living a simple life, comes from internal constructive values (e.g. practicing creativity or honesty), rather than external controlling values (e.g. popularity or dominance). Plus, choosing values makes your life easier, because you'll know what to commit to or reject.
CONCEPT 4: Look for how wrong you are.
This one I think is so cool to practice. It's another one that I used to also struggle with sometimes. I mean, who doesn't, right? Raise your hand if you like to be proven wrong? No one does! Unless they've read this book. The power in being wrong or trying to prove yourself wrong is that you'll be experimenting all the time and learning every day. Everyone will become a teacher and you'll be humble and accepting of others. You'll embrace your thousand mistakes and others opposing viewpoints. You'll also be able to take action even in uncertainty, which will propel you forward, instead of freezing and not getting anything done.
I hope this inspires your life like it did mine!